Some of my fondest memories growing up include family dinners. Dinner happened after activities and right when my Dad came home from work, which was usually around 6:30pm or 7pm. Naturally, when Joey was born and started on his solid food journey, I had the best intentions to serve family style meals every night. Joey could choose what he wanted [ideally everything on the table] and Mom and Dad could pass the plates and enjoy a meal too. But guess what? Joey started choosing extra chips on nachos night. Joey wanted ALL THE WATERMELON vs. grilled BBQ chicken and green beans. And then along came Anthony and Lily and dinnertime started feeling more like a wrestling match than the time of day when we came together as a family.
So I switched my family meals mindset and started plating meals BEFORE we sat down at the table, deconstructing the entire meal based on everyone’s wants and likes [Mom’s included- you better believe I’m serving up NEW things with old favorites], and alas: the deconstructed family dinner was born.
Here’s why the deconstructed family dinner works for us:
Not everyone loves what I make for dinner. I’ve accepted that. But dinner being my favorite meal of the day and the one meal I enjoy cooking the most, I’m willing to compromise when it comes to what gets plated on my kids’ plates. I’m still making the decisions on what’s being served and how much is being plated [hello reducing food waste!], then my kids then decide how much they’ll eat. This ensures they a. will always have something nutritious on their plates and b. they’ve come to know Mom won’t make some crazy mealtime decision that sets everyone off into a 5pm dinner tizzy.
Plating deconstructed meals for my toddlers has actually opened their horizons to tasting and trying new foods because in simple terms: I’m not really giving them a choice. However, if they decide they do not want a bite of the taco meat and would rather have a second helping of chips and guacamole, I go with it. I believe and have found half the battle in getting kids or toddlers specifically to try new foods is to keep exposing. So, the more I share or plate it, the most I’m hoping the smells, sights, and finally taste, will entice them.
From afar, deconstructing meals for the entire family might seem like short-order cooking. But the reality is I never deconstruct a meal for Ted and myself. And one of my three will usually ALWAYS like what I’m serving. The other two? Well, then that means I’m picking out pieces or favorites, and maybe adding something else to their plate that I’ve prepped a different day. Or heck, they are getting an all-beef hot dog or chicken nuggets. Not every night, but I’ll admit that happens!
What to know the BIGGEST reason I’m loving deconstructed family dinners right now? They give me a higher percentage of actually eating a hot meal WITH my family and it often leads to more time for mealtime conversation that doesn’t revolve around complaints or demands. If something I do for my family puts ME FIRST, well then, I should keep doing it, right? It works for now. And just like serving family style meals worked when it was just Mom, Dad, and Joey, I’m assuming things will change when I have school-age kids and teens, and hopefully we can bring back the task of everyone plating their own meal. For now deconstructed meals work, and I’m not messing with a good thing!
What do your family meals look like? Plating meals or serving family style?