I don’t know why it’s taken me until my third child to realize something about motherhood: no two days are ever the same. From eating, to sleeping, to moods and behavior, no two days are ever the same with small children. In fact, I’m sure Ted would say the same thing about me [hello mood SWINGS!]. But I’ve got my three amigos to thank for that. Among many other positive things I could thank them for….
I had this A-HA moment of no two days ever being the same last Thursday when I trying to get Lily down at 9pm. The night before she went down at 5:30pm. Why in the world was she going down at 9pm the next night you might ask?! You’re asking the wrong person. Because if I knew the answer then clearly I would’ve had her in bed well before the rest of the house. But that’s what funny [and a little annoying] about ALL of this. And I know if my Mom is reading this post she’d be saying her famous line: “We plan and God laughs.” I seem to notice the flip flops in scheduling when I want to do something— come on kids get to bed so Mommy can do XYZ, which typically involves work, working out, or watching a TV in peace. So, if I took my Mom’s advice and looked to the heavens for answers about all of this, I figure here’s what He’s telling me:
Chill out. Stop worrying about baby schedules. And stop trying to work so dang much. Focus on the kids vs. social media. Focus on your hubby instead of your Facebook newsfeed. And you know what? Don’t get so stressed out about these little people. Because soon they’ll be big, and with bigger problems. I dread that day… and all things involved with middle and high school.
Ok so clearly I wrote this post to give myself a little pep talk. And to remember to rely on my faith when things are really, really trying. And I hope it gave you some peace of mind in knowing things aren’t puppies and roses over here every day. I’d say 1/3 of our day is just that. The other 2/3’s is mixed with meltdowns, potty accidents, baby screams, and an unshowered Momma. Oh and karate. Have I told you Joey started taking karate??! He’s just the cutest little man in his outfit!
Back to the positives Katie, back to the positive!
So tell me: How do you handle the ever-changing schedules and setbacks of motherhood?
I like you, Katie. I found out about you through Aggie’s Kitchen and I think you are amazing down to Earth positive girl. Stay this way. Never change!
I have 2 kids which is a big difference between 3 kids haha. My boys are older, 10 & 6. I survived on wine, walks, workouts, coffee and my blog. I don’t sweat small things anymore. I deleted myself from Facebook so social media is not stealing me away from my family. I think there is nothing more you can do. It is just real life and taking day by day or one hour at a time, at times, is the only way. And it’s fine. This is life. A happy life.:) Nothing else really matters.:)
Hi Olena!! I love your blog. Thank you SO much for your comment and words of wisdom. I don’t know what I’d do without coffee, wine, and occasional workout. And you are so right, nothing else really matters besides our family. I say this over and over and over when there’s literally spilled on my kitchen floor 😉 Hope we stay in touch!
Man oh man I love this post! I have become much more chill as a mom but I can’t shake being a planner. For me, I’m always trying to be prepared as possible since I know our plans will inevitably end up being thrown out the window. But I feel like I’m always prepping/organizing and not present enough with my son, which is a struggle in and of itself!