Today is my birthday, and in celebration of all things ME [sorry kids, Mom gets a hot shower today], I found myself thinking long and hard about what I wanted to write about. It hit me when I was in Target earlier this week with all three kids struggling to make a return. A woman came up to us and just when I thought she was going to tell me, “oh wow, you’re busy!!!” she struck a cord and said, “you’re so lucky they’re yours.” Wait, did someone just tell me I’m lucky?! She must have meant crazy… but yes, lucky came out of her mouth. Lucky that these nose-picking, car seat screaming kids are mine. As scatter-brained, short-tempered, and tired I feel most days, yes, I am lucky. I am lucky to have three beautiful children. Which is one thing I have wanted my entire life. To have a family and give children the love that was and has been given to me my entire life, no matter how my family was made. So what’s the title of this post all about?! Read on…
I am adopted. Actually, my brother and I both are, from different biological families. At 3 months old I became my parents baby girl, and honestly, without sounding too sappy here, I was the luckiest baby in the world. And still feel that way as a 31-year-old grown adult. I remember growing up knowing I was adopted, but never really questioned it as my parents were very open about the process. Most importantly, I grew up knowing I was loved. A big piece of me has always been grateful my birth parents chose adoption, and chose my parents… so I could be theirs. Yes, my birth parents went through a stack of files and actually CHOSE my parents. I also remember my parents telling me God makes families in different ways, and because I was adopted, I was chosen to be a part of the Caputo family. That’s not to say an oopsie-baby isn’t chosen too, but you know what I’m getting at.
Needless to say I’m a little emotional this birthday. I’m a Mom. Something I wish I could pause and put on hold when I want to go to the bathroom alone. But hey, I’m here now and there’s no going back! I know motherhood is something my own Mom wanted when she and my Dad were trying to grow their family. I can only imagine the joy and love she felt when the papers were signed and my brother and I were in her arms [my Dad’s too]. And I can bet you they were the same exact feelings Ted and I felt when our children were born. In fact, my parents were in the hospital room for almost the entire 27 hours it took for Joey to enter this world, and you know what they both said? They were sorta glad they didn’t have to go threw THAT [lol].
When I sit back and think about what I’ve wanted for 31 years, it’s always been Mom. You know how some kids grow up thinking they want to be a teacher, or a firefighter, or a veterinarian? I never had those ambitions. I just wanted to be Mom. And I’m learning that it encompasses a whole lot more than holding a cute baby!!! If I could go back in time, I would tell my 5-year-old self to take naps and get more sleep. Sorry about the no-napping, stomping-my-feet thing Mom…. Let’s hope my kids don’t take after me in that department! Oh and don’t tell Ted, but my 5-year-old self also wanted 10 kids. Gulp.
While I understand adoption isn’t for everyone, I’m so glad it was a choice my parents made. I would love to hear if you have an adoption story too!
I needed this post so much today. My husband and I did IVF to have my daughter and have spent everything else we are able to in order to give my daughter a sibling. Everywhere I’ve turned the past few weeks I feel like I’ve been surrounded by adoption and fostering stories. I don’t know if I believe in fate but I feel like maybe I have fertility issues because there is a baby out there somewhere waiting for me to realize I’m supposed to be their mom. It’s a comfort to hear about positive adoption stories. Happy birthday. Thank you for sharing.
I can only imagine what and how much goes into IVF Liz. Your daughter is lucky you are an advocate for her and her future siblings! I am praying for you— and do too believe in fate/signs! xo.
Thanks for this sweet post! I love it for many reasons…my husband and I have 6 children 4 by birth then God led us to adopt 2 internationally (Ethiopia&China). Thank you so much for encouraging others to adopt! Your parents sound pretry amazing too -I love how they were so wise to share your story with you all through out your life. Thanks for sharing your beautiful story with us.
You and your husband and children sound amazing Carrie! Thank you for stopping by and reading! xo.
My husband and I are currently going through the adoption process for 3 babies! I never knew my heart could hold so much love and joy. There are two women I hold dear In my heart, the birth mom’s of these three children. They are the strongest, bravest and most selfless people I know. They made the hardest decision of their lives and one that filled ours with more blessings then we could have ever imagined. Thank you for sharing your story. I truly wish our society and more people talked about the beautiful choice we have of adoption, it’s a wonderful way to help those struggling with infertility and choosing life for little babies.
You and your three babies are in my prayers! They are lucky to have your love and arms ready for them!
And thank you for sharing 🙂 xo.
Did not know this about you! Thank you for sharing! <3 Miss you!
Miss you too my friend!
Jessica @ Nutritioulicious says
Thanks for sharing your story Katie! It brought tears to my eyes (and also made me laugh when reading that you want to go to the bathroom alone- I get that!). Happiest of birthdays to you!
Lol you probably have double the audience!!! Thank you so much Jessica <3
This made me tear up Katie!!! I love you even more for sharing…what sweet family photos of you and your parents growing up. My twin nieces just turned 20 this past week, they were adopted by my SIL when they were 2 years old and I’ve known them since they were 3. I always think about the decision their mom had to make, and how lucky my SIL and BIL were to be chosen as their parents.
I hope you had a wonderful birthday!! xoxo
Thank you Aggie! Thank you for sharing a little of you family history! The birthday was good… now on to next year 😉