Handling picky eaters is one of the most stressful parts of parenting. Learn some full-proof strategies for making mealtime more enjoyable for your family.
Feeding a child is one of the most stressful parts of parenting for me. One minute Joey is gobbling up a delicious sandwich with turkey, avocado, tomato, and cheddar cheese. The next minute he looks at me like I’m crazy when I serve him the SAME sandwich and before I can blink the food is launched across the dining room table.
Is this behavior picky eating? I think so. I also think it’s him testing his limits with Mom and the laws of gravity like Bill Nye the Science Guy. From what I’ve researched and witnessed in my own kitchen, handling picky eaters is just another step in the parent-child relationship most if not all families experience.
As a parent, you want your children to eat a variety of foods for good reason: it will hopefully lead to nutritious eating habits for them and stress-free cooking for you. So what are you to do when one or more of your children start the oh-so-common picky eating behavior?
Here are my 7 full-proof strategies for handling picky eaters:
- Be Patient. This one is tough for me- the impatient Mom! Did you know it often takes up to a dozen times for a child to accept new foods? Even if your child refuses a “bite,” encourage your child to touch and smell the new food. Talk about the color and shape, not whether it tastes “so good!” And don’t label them picky, at least not in front of your child. Children often accept a title like being “shy” or “picky” and continue to associate themselves with that. Either good or bad!
Joey might not like eggs, but he likes playing this egg matching/counting game! - Avoid Sweet Rewards. Try to limit offering a reward or praise for your child to try the new food. We want children to choose foods because they like the taste and they are hungry. Not because they are going to be rewarded with ice cream after dinner if they eat their broccoli.
- Serve with the Familiar. Children are more likely to try a new food if it’s served with something they already enjoy eating. For instance, if your child loves pizza, make a build your own pizza bar with extra vegetable toppings for them to choose from. I know Joey LOVES bananas, so I’ll make sure he has a banana on his plate when I serve green beans or asparagus. Weird in my mind, but not in his!
Green beans are served with the familiar: strawberries! Also pictured are chicken tenders with BBQ dipping sauce. - Get the Family Involved. Take your children to the grocery store [when you aren’t pressed for time] and get them involved in the picking and choosing of different foods. When you get home, have them help you prepare a new recipe or food— better yet, have them help you name or create a whole new recipe from scratch! You can also have the older kids help plan your weekly menu and even help look for new recipes on Pinterest! For more ideas, check out How Toddlers Can Help in the Kitchen.
While Mom cooks, Joey helps out in the kitchen too! He has his “kitchen drawer” and has been known to make lots of delicious pretend recipes [aka a big mess]. - Eat it Together. The best way to teach your child to enjoy healthy foods is to enjoy them yourself. Practice what you preach— oh and don’t feel bad if you dislike peas and never serve them for dinner. I grew up in a home where my Mother despised bananas. I don’t think I ate my first one until college. Now they are on my regular grocery list!
Nana. The banana hater. - Serve it THEIR Way. If your child doesn’t like their food touching, serve new foods on a plate that has sections or compartments. If your child likes dips, such as ranch or BBQ sauce, serve it alongside the new food even if you think it’s a weird combination. Or swap out the ranch for hummus or bean spreads. Don’t let this tip make you into a short order chef though. This is only if you have their favorite dips and spreads on hand! I’ve also been known to cut a cucumber 3 different ways in an attempt to get Joey to try it. You know what? He likes most raw veggies cut into strips! Not circles or chunks. Imagine that… [cookie cutters work great for this too].
And let kids feed themselves… independence = messy! - Respect Their Appetite. If your child isn’t hungry, don’t force a meal or snack because it’s mealtime for everyone else in the family. While it’s important to stick to a mealtime routine [meals and snacks at the same time everyday], sometimes children aren’t THAT hungry. However, this doesn’t give them a pass for leaving the table while everyone else eats.
In the end, you need to do what works for your family. I encourage you to cut yourself some slack, as handling picky eaters IS stressful. You have the control on what you are serving your child, but ultimately it’s up to them as to whether or not they will try OR eat it. Easier said than done, I know. But if your child is growing normally and has plenty of energy, he or she is most likely getting the nutrients they need each day.
Recommended Picky Eating Resources for Parents:
[What I reference weekly, if not daily]
Fearless Feeding: How to Raise Healthy Eaters from High Chair to High School by Jill Castle and Maryann Jacobsen
Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense by Ellyn Satter
Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family by Ellyn Satter
